Answer: It is NEVER a good idea to allow a child to decide whether or not to visit with a parent during their scheduled time. Many times children of divorce have issues around visiting one of the parents. It’s important to make it clear to your child that deciding whether or not to visit is not their call, that’s up to the grownups. Instead discuss your child’s concerns with the child and the other parent. As children get older, they have more commitments including spending time with friends that may interfere with their time with both parents. Care must be taken to ensure that the child is able to have time to meet all of their commitments, but visiting with a parent should be a priority.
Answer: The short answer is get over it. Although it is easy to persuade a child to think negatively a good parent would not do that. If the other parent is doing that the best you can do for your child is to remain positive and give them evidence that those things are not true. What you describing is alienation and the antidote is contact.
Answer: Each parent has the freedom to choose what happens in his or her household. Eating a variety of styles of food and being exposed to different diets is more than acceptable and gives balance to your child’s life. A balanced vegetarian cuisine is very healthy for a child.